It is the joy of creation when a new life is born. It is the pride of achievement in another's success. Love also becomes life-shattering pain when we love but are not loved in return.
If love can have so many faces, does love have an opposite?
What is the opposite of love? Is it?
But if we go beyond the ordinary way of reckoning things and understanding reality fears and tears define reality for most of us. Fear is an emotion that separates us from each other. Fear is the cloud of unknowing that separates the human spirit from finding its way home. Love, on the other hand is the beacon in the night that leads us to where we belong.
“The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of beauty is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, but indifference between life and death.” Elie Wiesel (Jewish-American political activist and Nobel Prize winner) US News & World Report (27 October 1986). Here, the main argument is that, as intense emotions, love and hate are two sides of the same coin while indifference is a deficiency.
But what kind of a person is a typical hater?
It wasn’t that long ago when emotional maturation in psychology was seen to have been achieved through vaginal orgasm in a heterosexual intercourse alone, and nothing else was ‘mature’ enough.
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